Ken Granger was a senior data processing manager in Denver. He wanted to relocate to Dallas because his wife had family there. I asked Ken to list his friends so he could send them something. He resisted doing the assignment.
His reasoning went like this: "All my friends live in Chicago. I want to work in Dallas. Why should I write to people who can't help me?"
Finally, after three weeks, Ken made his list. We sent a letter, and guess what? One of his contacts in Chicago had a brother who was president of a data processing company in Dallas. Ken flew down to interview and was hired. That's the kind of thing that often happens in networking.
"You never know how many friends you have
until you rent a place at the beach."
Quoted by Wayne Norris in
You Don't Have to Be Crazy to Work Here...But It Sure Helps
(Price/Stern/Sloan).
Don't guess who your friends are
I've seen hundreds of people contact their networks to ask for help, and I see two patterns.
First, friendship letters always work. You get some positive response from some of your friends. That's a big boost when you're feeling down. Second, it's impossible to accurately predict who will help you and who won't. You'll be wrong 50 percent of the time—maybe more.