Matt: But that's a different kind of transaction than this, and I think the biggest take-away for me is to make sure that I not only show my thanks, but strategically set it up so they'll talk to me again, and giving back is part of that.
I think throughout my career I've very rarely had people who wouldn't talk to me again. So, in some ways I have a lot of those skills, but they've wanted to talk to me because they've wanted to be in my story. There was something in it for them as well.
BF: Big difference.
Matt: I know that everybody's network is different, everybody's search is different. I can absolutely see that if you follow these 10 steps, you're going to get a higher percentage of help than you might otherwise, simply because this is thoughtful and based on decency really, just being a person that somebody wants to help.
BF: Right.
Matt: I guess the one thing that I wonder about: I just want to make sure that people don't feel like I'm reading from a checklist.
BF: Very important notion. You don't want to say, "Okay. I've got a checklist here Steve. I'm going to take you through it. Question number 5 is…"
No, you don't want that. You want it to be conversational, and the point is to have a roadmap so you aren't lost in the conversation. You don't want to get off the phone and say, "Gee, I wish I'd asked this and I wish I'd asked that."
This is simply a checklist to make sure that you enroll your friends in your campaign and begin to shake some job leads out of the trees.